March 2015

 

Porn Detox

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

To detox is to eliminate poisons from our system. Too much “junk sex”, like too much junk food, can also poison our system. From talking to my clients, it seems like there is an awful lot of porn-focused sex going on in the LGBT community….

What Is Therapy And Why Would I Want It?

Posted by Michael Kimmel in Columns

When I was a kid in small-town Ohio, my grandma told me, “Only crazy people get therapy. Don’t be crazy.” End of advice. This is a typical response to therapy for some folks. We think that we should be able to handle our own problems…

Fighting Fair

Posted by Michael Kimmel in Columns

Sometimes I wonder: Why do we fight, argue or disagree? We want our way. We want to be right. We want to get something. Are we willing to get it at any cost? For most of us, the answer is: no. In any relationship of…

Keeping Your Relationship Good

Posted by Michael Kimmel in Columns

You meet someone you like.  You go out (or hang out) for a while.  You get to know each other.  It’s going well.  Before you know it, you’re in a “relationship”.  Time passes, and the relationship grows and deepens.  It’s good.  Hooray!  More time passes, and, uh-oh, things aren’t so perfect anymore.  The glitter…

Codependence And Caretaking

Posted by Michael Kimmel in Columns

Dear Michael: My elderly parents live in Cleveland. So far, they’ve been okay, but lately my dad’s health is shaky and my mom’s mental state isn’t the greatest. I am the only child who lives nearby; my brother and sister live in Montana and Florida,…

7 Steps Toward A Happier You

Posted by Michael Kimmel in Columns

I am always interested in learning something new about how to have a happier, healthier, more peaceful and prosperous life. As a psychotherapist, I share these ideas and techniques with my clients and now I’d like to share some of them with you: Step 1:…

Living Your Sexual Ethics

Posted by Michael Kimmel in lgbt

Have you ever wondered how to live a life that is both sexually ethical and free of outdated notions about sex? I find the topic quite interesting: it comes up quite often in my psychotherapy office as I help my clients – both single and…

When Food Is Your Best Friend

Posted by Michael Kimmel in Columns

Dear Michael: I am 32 years old, 5’6” and I weigh 210 pounds.  I’ve weighed this much most of my adult life.  Why?  I love to eat.  Food is my friend, my best friend. Sometimes, my only friend.  After dating a few men, who only wanted to use me because…