September 2015

 

Feeling younger – growing older

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Some of us spend a lot of time and money to look younger than we are. We want to convince other people that we’re not our biological age. While this can be an amusing – and expensive – game, it seems to me that we’re…

What do I do with all this Grief?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Dear Michael: I am a 49-year-old bisexual woman whose 17-year-old son just killed himself. I still can’t believe it. My husband, my girlfriend and I are all in shock; we didn’t see it coming. He was my youngest child and I thought he was doing…

Dating, Hanging Out and Hooking Up

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Dating: the word sounds ancient, doesn’t it? Instead, we usually hear “hooking up”, a phrase that sounds pretty meaningless and shallow, or “hanging out”, a terribly vague description of spending time together. All of this leads me to ask the question: Is Dating Dead? Dating…

How to Choose a Therapist

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Recently, I got an email from a guy who said: “A friend of mine told me that he was tired of hearing me complain all the time about the same problems over and over and that I should see a therapist. I’ve never gone to…

My Girlfriend talks too Much

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Dear Doctor Kimmel: My new girlfriend talks too much.  She just never shuts up.  I like her a lot in other ways and she is great in bed, intelligent and adores me.  How do I tell her (or do I)?  She’s driving me nuts and I’m about to lose…

The New Middle Age

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Consider these phrases: “Middle Aged”. “Over the Hill”. “Past Your Prime”. Do they inspire you to live a long, healthy and happy life? Me neither. I love the slogan of the organization Aging as Ourselves:  “Age doesn’t define me; my attitude does.” Sounds good, doesn’t it?…

Grindr, Facebook and the New Image Culture

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

The power of images, specifically, photos, is not to be underestimated. With apps like Grindr and Facebook, many of us interact less-and-less with people face-to-face. We don’t hear their voice, see how they move or observe them with their friends. Instead, we see images of…

Taking a Chance on Happiness

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Everybody I know says that they want to be happy and it sounds like a pretty normal thing, but rarely do we explore what happiness is and how we can get there. Happiness is often defined as some perfect combination of pleasure, joy, exhilaration, bliss,…

How to Raise Your Self-Esteem

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Self-Esteem is a phrase that you hear a lot in the media. I’d like to talk a bit about what self-esteem is and how you can improve yours. When I worked for Kaiser-Permanente Psychiatry and Addiction Medicine, I facilitated the “Healthy Relationships Support Group” (which…