November 2016

 

Sigmund goes to Palm Springs

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

For many of us LGBT San Diegans, winter and spring are the perfect times to go to Palm Springs: the weather is great and it’s just far enough away to feel like we’ve had an adventure. I was thinking recently of what it would be…

12 Steps for the Rest of Us

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns, lgbt

While I am not a member of a 12 step program, I find the 12 steps are useful for anyone struggling with an addictiion. In reality, most of us have some kind of addictive or compulsive behavior that interferes with our happiness. In his book…

The Trans Community and Me

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

For several years, people have asked me to write a column about the transgender (aka “trans”) community. As a cis male, I deferred. Instead, I asked trans friends to write something, but, no dice. Last week, a trans client said, “Why don’t you write a…

Feeling Safe

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

This is not the column I expected to write this week. I did not expect to awaken with dread the morning after the recent election. I didn’t want to get out of bed. I didn’t want to face a world where Donald Trump was the…

The PTSD Experience

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

In the world of psychology, PTSD – post-traumatic stress disorder – is how doctors describe the experience of recovering from trauma. This term was created in1980 and was used to describe soldiers coming back from war: these men and women had often killed people and…

What Do You Do With Your Anger?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Yesterday, a client told me, “I’m so angry about how my boss treated me”. I asked him, “So, what did you do with your anger?” He said, “I yelled at some people I work with. Tomorrow, I need to apologize to them.” We all get…

When Things Fall Apart

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Maybe bad news does come in threes. Recently a friend of mine was diagnosed with breast cancer, another friend had an emergency C-section and the baby didn’t survive, and another friend is struggling with crystal meth. When things fall apart how can we comfort and…