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Psychological Santa to the Rescue!

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For lots of people, December is the month from hell: this time of year often brings crazy-scary sets of expectations and dread. We are bombarded with media images encouraging us to buy stuff and to be happy…and if we don’t, we’re failures. This is a…

Panic Attacks, PTSD and Me

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When clients ask me, “Why did you become a therapist?”, my usual response is: “If you knew my childhood history, you’d understand.” According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, one in five Americans has been sexually molested as a child; one in four…

Talking with the Enemy

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I was hiking with a friend at Torrey Pines and we stopped to take in the view. A fellow hiker stopped near us and a pleasant conversation began. It was going smoothly until this person said how right Trump was to get rid of Obamacare….

Whose life are you living?

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The longer I work as a psychotherapist, the more amazed I am at how we all – myself included – keep doing things that make us unhappy. Call it a pattern or a habit, whatever you call it, we keep repeating behaviors and thoughts that…

The Tao of Travel   

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For seven years I read the book “365 Tao” and did the daily meditations. Taoism – an ancient Eastern philosophy – emphasizes compassion, spontaneity and harmony with nature. It says “go with the flow” and don’t be attached to things happening in a certain way….

The new PTSD: President Trump Stress Disorder

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Traditionally, PTSD has stood for “post traumatic stress disorder”. It describes how we may have to tough it out to get through something traumatic (war, rape, bodily harm) and then, when it’s over, we typically “collapse” into a big, ole mess. In this after-the-trauma-is-over phase,…

Prestige, Power and Possessions

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The above title came from a TED talk I watched recently. In it, the speaker – a contented, wise elder – said that only young people expect that prestige, power and possessions will bring them happiness, and that spending a lifetime searching for them is…

How to Say Goodbye

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I just saw the documentary “Restless Creature” at the Digital Gym in North Park. In the film, New York City Ballet star Wendy Whelen talks about “how to say goodbye” to her thirty-plus year career as a prima ballerina. At the age of 47, Ms….

Consciousness, Change and Humility

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This column is inspired by a phrase in a terrific book I am reading “Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life” by Jungian psychologist James Hollis. The author wrote that many of the life’s hardships are “… a summons to consciousness, change and humility”….