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San Diego-based, California-licensed psychotherapist, assisting clients in achieving their goals and becoming the men and women they want to be.
San Diego Therapist, California-licensed psychotherapist,
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Nice guys bore me

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Dear Michael: I feel like a stereotype, but it’s true: I only want men I can’t have, and then when I get them (which I usually do), I don’t want them anymore. Nice guys bore me, and I end up alone most of the time….

I just want to be normal

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Recently, I was shocked to hear a new client tell me, “I don’t want to be gay, I want to be normal.”  I have heard other clients say things like: “Gay men are such a mess, I just want a normal guy” and “Where are all…

Alfred Camus and the Haters

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  I get some interesting emails as a columnist and psychotherapist. Here’s one on a subject you might not expect:   Dear Michael: I’m a hater. I really hate the religious right, most Republicans  and all those Focus on the Family morons. I try to be…

How To Retire Happy (The R-M-O Method)

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What does it mean to retire? Let’s expand the definition beyond “to stop working”. After all, maybe our grandparents wanted to stop working entirely, and they could. Do we? Some of my clients have retired at 45, 50 or 55. Some left the military with…

Too Much Texting; Not Enough Love

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As a psychotherapist, I’ve been noticing more-and-more relationships end by texting. In all too many situations, texting is winning out over love. It’s not hard to see the appeal of texting. In an effort not to feel lonely, we text, email or call on our…

Why Do I Drink?

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It’s popular in psychological/treatment circles to focus on how much (alcohol) we drink, how much is too much, what to do about it, etc. In this column, let’s look at WHY we drink? What’s our motivation in throwing down those beers, mojitos or stolis? Is…

Codependence: When friendship goes bad

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Dear Michael,  For several years I was friends with someone. He ended it abruptly and refuses to talk to me. It’s no problem with me that he ended the friendship, but it’s been almost a year now and he’s still angry and hateful to me….

Making major life changes

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Dear Michael: I am a 19-year-old, newly-out lesbian who is moving to NYC for college, and I am scared shitless.  I?ve lived in SD all my life.  I am so nervous I?m sick to my stomach a lot now.  I leave in a month to…