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San Diego-based, California-licensed psychotherapist, assisting clients in achieving their goals and becoming the men and women they want to be.
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The Well of Loneliness

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  As a young gay boy in small-town Ohio, I read “The Well of Loneliness”, one of the few LGBT books I could get my hands on in our miniscule (and conservative) town library. The novel – written in 1928 by British author Radcliffe Hall…

What is “Love” Anyway?

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I love working with couples: they come to me, wanting to improve their communications, work out problems between them and deepen their love. In couples’ therapy, one of the most helpful things I do is to help a couple examine their definition of love. Specifically,…

Not Out to Your Doctor?

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As an openly-gay mental health professional, I have long assumed that most LGBT folks are out to their health providers. Wrong! Recently, I was asked to present a talk to an LGBT group on the pros and cons of coming out to your doctor. I…

Top/Bottom/Versatile

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I was recently at a party where I was asked, “As a therapist, can you tell me why there are so many more bottoms than tops?” Well, some things may be eternal mysteries, but I’ll give the question my best shot. I can’t assume that…

No one’s faithful anymore

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Dear Michael: I am so disgusted with our community. It seems that nobody is faithful to their partner anymore. I was in a 10-year relationship that recently ended. I was faithful to my boyfriend and (to my knowledge) he was faithful to me. Now that…

How to have a Happy Summer

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Summers are supposed to be happy, right? Carefree, easy, laid-back…and, yet, so often, they’re not. This column is about how to make this summer one of your best ever. Let’s start with: Lower your expectations…of everyone. For example: don’t think you have to lose weight…

The Imposter Syndrome

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When you were a little kid, didn’t you look at all the hard-working grownups all around you and think, “Wow, they’re so good. I hope I can be like them some day.” And then, as an adult, you look around you and think, “Wow, we’re…

Same-Sex Divorce: How to Prevent It

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It’s easy to be excited about same-sex marriage. After all, we worked long and hard to make it happen. And, yes, we deserve to feel good about it. However, let’s look at what happens when same-sex marriage doesn’t go so well: same-sex divorce: Why do couples…

What To Do When You’re Not Young And Cute Anymore

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I often hear – from my mid-life clients – something like this:  “The singles world is all about hot guys/girls in their 20’s and 30’s.  I feel old, ugly and jealous…what happens when I’m not young and cute anymore?” For many of us, from our mid-40’s onward,…

Don’t Lose Yourself in a Relationship

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Often, when I counsel newly-married couples, I hear a familiar lament: “I feel like I’ve lost myself since I got married” or “After moving in with my partner, I feel like I’ve merged with them so much that I don’t know who I am anymore”….