May 2014

 

Fathers and Mothers

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

As we’re about halfway between Father’s Day and Mother’s Day, it feels timely to write a column addressing how our fathers and mothers affect our lives and relationships. In this column, I’d like to focus on: (1) How our Fathers and Mothers are (unconscious) models…

How to Enjoy Clothes Shopping (especially for Men)

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

In the mid-1980’s in Manhattan, I was a personal shopper for professional men and women. It was good experience for the psychotherapist I would eventually become: everyone’s insecurities make a strong – and often unexpected – appearance when it comes to buying clothes for ourselves….

BFLK

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

After the last Folsom Street Fair, a client said that he saw me on a list of “kink-friendly” therapists. I was intrigued, so I Googled “kink” to see how different people/groups define “kink”. The common consensus definition was: “unusual sexual behaviors or practices”. To this I…

Give yourself the gift of meditation

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

It’s trendy to meditate.  Movie stars do it, the Dalai Lama does it, even your next-door neighbor does it. But what is it? Meditation is about taking time out from your day, stopping your activities and doing nothing but being with yourself. There’s nothing mystical or…

How can I be happy?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Dear Michael: I know you’ll never print this in your column, because it’s too hard a question (even Dear Abby would reject it), but anyway, here goes:  how can I be happy?  I have all the trappings of a great life, and yet I feel I’m only…