May 2015

 

The Amazing Lena Dunham talks about Marriage

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

I think Lena Dunham is amazing. In this article (found in the New Yorker (at http://www.newyorker.com/culture/cultural-comment/the-bride-in-her-head), Ms. Dunham talks about the future of marriage for straight people like herself, now that the excuse of waiting for LGBT folks to be able to marry is no longer…

How to Get Along with Difficult People

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

No matter how wonderful your life is, its impossible to avoid difficult people. These unpleasant folks may be your neighbors, coworkers, family, clients, boss or even your partner. Regardless of who they are, how are you going to get along with them? You can’t just…

Do you Feel Invisible?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

What does it mean to be invisible? No one sees you. As a therapist, I hear lots of men and woman over 40 tell me that they feel “invisible”.  They walk down the street in Hillcrest and no one sees them.  No one makes eye contact.  They go…

Time for a Retreat?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

When times get tough, what’s one of the best things you can do for yourself? Perhaps it’s time for a retreat. You may protest, saying you don’t have the time or money, but check out these three different types of retreats: The at-home retreat: This…

What do you think of This Kind of Sex?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Dear Michael, Last week a friend of mine invited me to go with him to a sex party that he heard about on Adam4Adam. It was in someone’s hotel suite and there were a lot of naked men there. I’ve been to bathhouses before, but…

Coming Out Is Mental Health

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Dear Michael: I’ve been married for 5 years and it’s a sham.  I want to come out, but, I’m scared to death that everyone I know will turn against me.   I have two young kids – a 6-month-old baby girl and a 3-year-old boy –…

What is Healthy Stress?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

You hear a lot of talk about stress: “I’m so stressed out” or “My job is so stressful”, but how what exactly is stress? I’ve read a lot of definitions; most of them focus on the worry and anxiety that come with stress. But what…

(Non)Disordered Eating

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

On many pop culture websites, you hear a lot of talk about celebrities with eating disorders. What is an eating disorder and what is (non)disordered eating? I think that most of us have some (small) version of an eating disorder.  We all have times when we…