I think Lena Dunham is amazing. In this article (found in the New Yorker (at http://www.newyorker.com/culture/cultural-comment/the-bride-in-her-head), Ms. Dunham talks about the future of marriage for straight people like herself, now that the excuse of waiting for LGBT folks to be able to marry is no longer...
No matter how wonderful your life is, its impossible to avoid difficult people. These unpleasant folks may be your neighbors, coworkers, family, clients, boss or even your partner. Regardless of who they are, how are you going to get along with them? You can’t just...
You seldom read about men and how we feel about our bodies in bathing suits. Until now. Click below for a link to a great article on how ten men (in their twenties and thirties) feel about their bodies, showing skin and the challenges of being comfortable...
In this column, I would like to try and summarize how sex and love changes as we age. I am basing this on what my clients have been telling me over the past 17 years as a therapist to the San Diego LGBT community. I invite you...
What does it mean to be invisible? No one sees you. As a therapist, I hear lots of men and woman over 40 tell me that they feel “invisible”. They walk down the street in Hillcrest and no one sees them. No one makes eye contact. They go to an...
When times get tough, what’s one of the best things you can do for yourself? Perhaps it’s time for a retreat. You may protest, saying you don’t have the time or money, but check out these three different types of retreats: The at-home retreat: This won’t cost you...
Dear Michael, Last week a friend of mine invited me to go with him to a sex party that he heard about on Adam4Adam. It was in someone’s hotel suite and there were a lot of naked men there. I’ve been to bathhouses before, but this...
Dear Michael: I’ve been married for 5 years and it’s a sham. I want to come out, but, I’m scared to death that everyone I know will turn against me. I have two young kids – a 6-month-old baby girl and a 3-year-old boy - who I love...
You hear a lot of talk about stress: “I’m so stressed out” or “My job is so stressful”, but how what exactly is stress? I’ve read a lot of definitions; most of them focus on the worry and anxiety that come with stress. But what about...
On many pop culture websites, you hear a lot of talk about celebrities with eating disorders. What is an eating disorder and what is (non)disordered eating? I think that most of us have some (small) version of an eating disorder. We all have times when we use...