August 2015

 

How to Stay Single and Still Love Yourself

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

I like to read foreign newspapers on-line.  They give me different points of view.  In the Sunday (London) Times, reporter Joseph Dunn wrote, “There comes a point in every adult’s life when he or she must check out of Guyland…This is the place in a man’s life…

Perfectionism: The Endless Report Card

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Do you feel like you’re always judging/critiquing/ evaluating yourself? Are you afraid to do something you may not be good at? Are you afraid to take risks? Congratulations! You’re probably a perfectionist. The good news: perfectionists are made, not born. It is a learned set…

Lift Others as You Climb

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Advertising urges us to see aging as a failure. This is where role models and mentoring come in. When I was a young man, I saw very few older men or women who had lives that looked appealing. I’m sure they were out there, I…

Reinventing Marriage

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Now, no matter what state we live in, move to or visit, our same-sex marriages are legal. Hooray! This has been a long time coming. As a therapist and someone who has conducted numerous workshops on same-sex relationships in the past few years, many LGBT…

Do I have enough?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

As a psychotherapist, over the years’ I’ve heard many people say that they don’t have enough of the good things in life. This column looks at a few of the things that I think really matter: Fun: Enjoyment, amusement and pleasure…that’s a good definition of…

Is American Life Really All About Power and Money?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

The current New Yorker features an article analyzing the work and career of Joan Didion, a writer whose work and life I admire: a writer who has inspired me since reading her essay collection “Slouching Towards Bethlehem” in the 1970’s. This article starts off as a…

Why is it so Hard to Change?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

As a psychotherapist, clients often ask me: “Why is it so hard to change?” We know what we want, we know who we want to be, and yet, it’s so hard to stop being the way we are and become this new person with healthier…

Healthy Boundaries

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

If you listen to any kind of psychological advice show – from Dr. Phil to Dr. Drew – you’ll hear the therapist talking about “healthy boundaries”.  A boundary is a marker, a dividing line. It tells me where my property stops and yours starts. Psychologically, it…