August 2016

 

What is “Love” Anyway?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

I love working with couples: they come to me, wanting to improve their communications, work out problems between them and deepen their love. In couples’ therapy, one of the most helpful things I do is to help a couple examine their definition of love. Specifically,…

The Anatomy of an Affair

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

How do affairs happen? Typically, in my psychotherapy office, when I work with a couple that is struggling with the aftermath of an affair (e.g. one person was unfaithful to the other), it’s common for the person who cheated to say “I don’t know how…

Not Out to Your Doctor?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

As an openly-gay mental health professional, I have long assumed that most LGBT folks are out to their health providers. Wrong! Recently, I was asked to present a talk to an LGBT group on the pros and cons of coming out to your doctor. I…

Burned out at work?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

I see a lot of clients who have problems with their jobs. They tell me they feel burned out at work. I define this kind of burnout as job-related mental and physical exhaustion that has a negative effect on your personal life. Here are some…

Top/Bottom/Versatile

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

I was recently at a party where I was asked, “As a therapist, can you tell me why there are so many more bottoms than tops?” Well, some things may be eternal mysteries, but I’ll give the question my best shot. I can’t assume that…

No one’s faithful anymore

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Dear Michael: I am so disgusted with our community. It seems that nobody is faithful to their partner anymore. I was in a 10-year relationship that recently ended. I was faithful to my boyfriend and (to my knowledge) he was faithful to me. Now that…

How to have a Happy Summer

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Summers are supposed to be happy, right? Carefree, easy, laid-back…and, yet, so often, they’re not. This column is about how to make this summer one of your best ever. Let’s start with: Lower your expectations…of everyone. For example: don’t think you have to lose weight…