September 2016

 

Is my child gay?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

One of my clients, a divorced businessman, has a 16-year-old son “Evan”. Evan just told his dad that he’s gay. He said it very confidently. To Evan, there appears to be no doubt about this.  But his dad wonders. The plot thickens… It seems that Evan…

Can You Be Happy For Someone Else?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

There’s a word in Buddhism – Muditā – that means “celebrating the success of others”. The first time I heard it, at a meditation retreat in Northern California, I wondered “Why is the teacher talking about this? What does this have to do with feeling…

Let’s talk about sex

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

A big part of mental health is having a healthy sex life, but, for some reason, our sexual selves are often left out of any discussion about our mental and physical health. Maybe it’s because it makes some doctors or therapists – or us –…

I think I’m bisexual…

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Dear Michael: I am a happily-married woman with a young child, a great job and loving friends. There’s only one problem, I think I’m bisexual, and I don’t know what to do about it. What do I do with my feelings for other women? I…

Finding your perfect partner

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

We all have this idea of the “perfect” partner, and many of us feel disappointed and even annoyed when we don’t get him or her. A while back, I offered a workshop on this topic (“Finding Your Perfect Partner”). In this column, I’ve taken the…

The ABCs of Couples Counseling

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

Over the years, many people have asked me a lot of questions about couples counseling. For this column, I’ve boiled those questions down to three, which I call the ABCs of couples counseling: A: What can it do for my partner and I (the possibilities)? B:…

The Well of Loneliness

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in lgbt

  As a young gay boy in small-town Ohio, I read “The Well of Loneliness”, one of the few LGBT books I could get my hands on in our miniscule (and conservative) town library. The novel – written in 1928 by British author Radcliffe Hall…

Why I Like Getting Older

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

If you believe advertising, getting older is a mistake, a weakness. If you get older and look older, you’ve done it wrong.  This logic works really well for advertising: it creates a lot of scared people desperate enough to buy any product that will keep them…

How to have a low stress life

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Today I got a call from a new client, who asked me, “Can you help me lower my stress and anxiety? I don’t want to take medication. Oh, and by the way, I’m kinda depressed too.” This is a common request. Despite TV commercials that…