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The “Right” Way to Die

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

I hadn’t planned on writing a column like this. However, I hadn’t planned on my sister dying a slow, drawn-out death either.  A year ago I was told that my little sister was not going to live long. In some ways, this wasn’t a surprise:…

Am I Ready for a Relationship?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Finding the right person who will love you for who you are is one of the great achievements of life. In my work as a psychotherapist, I meet many women and men who tell me, “I want to meet someone wonderful. I’m ready and I…

“Shoving Each Other Towards Wholeness”

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Relationships are humbling.  ALL relationships. Whether it’s with your partner, your child, your parent or your best friend…all relationships are humbling because they show us our flaws, fears and weaknesses. And yet, they are also the best path to wholeness. My grandma used to say,…

Do I Really Need Therapy?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Last week, at a dinner party, someone who knew that I was a therapist asked me, “Hey Doctor Kimmel, do I really need therapy?  I can usually handle my problems by myself. What do you think?”     My response: Perhaps “need” isn’t the most accurate…

You too can be a Saint

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Do you know the story of Saint Valentine? Neither did I. So, I researched it and found it inspiring. Here are two versions of his story: Version one: During the reign of Emperor Claudius II, Rome was involved in so many unpopular wars that it…

How to End a Relationship    

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

One thing I’m often asked, as a psychotherapist: “Should I stay in this relationship or should I go?” If the person decides to go, the next question – inevitably is – “How do I end it in the best way possible?” I’d like to break…

Have More Sex: It’s Good for You

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Nowadays, in many ways, sex gets a bad rap: anonymous sex, unsafe sex, addictive sex, hook-up sex…you know. I’d like to focus on the other side of sex: all the ways that it’s good for us. I researched this on-line, because – although I have…

A more confident/less anxious new year

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

It’s a new year. So what? What’s really going to change? Unless we take an active role in creating change, this new year will be pretty much like the last one. How would you like to have a more confident/less anxious year? Sounds good, doesn’t…

Holiday Hell? Here’s what you can do…

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

As a psychotherapist, this is one of the busiest times of year. Why? Because “The Holidays” bring up so many unrealistic expectations for many of us. We get depressed because we compare ourselves, our gifts and our families with what we think other people experience….

What’s on your back burner?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Some of us are used to living in an ongoing state of crisis; we don’t know what it’s like to have a calm, peaceful life. And when we begin to feel more peaceful, it can actually be scary. We’re not used to it; it makes…