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How to Feel Less Anxious

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

It’s pretty easy to feel anxious these days, especially with climate change, attacks on LGBTQ rights and a government led by someone as mentally unstable as Donald Trump. After suffering from panic attacks myself – and helping my clients with anxiety/worry/fears/ phobias – here are…

Are You Ready for Marriage?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Choosing a partner is one of most important decisions any of us will ever make. It determines the harmony – or lack of it – that we will experience in every area of our lives. Unfortunately, the statistics (based on predominantly heterosexual marriages) do not…

90 Seconds

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

I used to hate science in high school. In my class of 68 people (Wellington High School class of 1971), our biology teacher was completely incompetent and our physics teacher gave you extra credit if you went to the high school wrestling matches (you guessed…

Cry. Laugh. Feel.

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Many people tell me that I don’t look my age (66). When they ask me: “What’s your secret?” I can honestly say, “Feeling your feelings is crucial.” That doesn’t mean you have to express your feelings to or at another person (that creates drama, and is a…

The Best Sleep Ever

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Sleep: beautiful, wonderful, drowsy, deep, restful sleep. Don’t we love it? Isn’t it one of the best things in life? Doesn’t it keep us well-rested, content and healthy? And isn’t it a drag when we can’t have it? I was talking with a client recently…

It’s Summertime and People are Falling in Love

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

New love is exciting: it makes everything better. It releases all kinds of powerful hormones in the body that elevate our moods and make it easy to overlook any potentially annoying habits of our new partner. About twenty years’ ago- as a psychotherapist working at…

Don’t Suffer

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

I used to be in a Buddhist study group. One of the main tenets of Buddhism was: Pain is part of life; suffering is optional. What this means to me is that there is no way to avoid pain and difficulty – they’re just part…

How to Lower Your Relationship Drama

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

In my work as a psychotherapist, I see it over-and-over again: a perfectly happy single person meets someone wonderful. They start to date, it gets serious and – boom! – hello relationship drama! Over the past twenty years, how many times have I heard a…

The “Right” Way to Die

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

I hadn’t planned on writing a column like this. However, I hadn’t planned on my sister dying a slow, drawn-out death either.  A year ago I was told that my little sister was not going to live long. In some ways, this wasn’t a surprise:…