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The Best Sleep Ever

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Sleep: beautiful, wonderful, drowsy, deep, restful sleep. Don’t we love it? Isn’t it one of the best things in life? Doesn’t it keep us well-rested, content and healthy? And isn’t it a drag when we can’t have it? I was talking with a client recently…

It’s Summertime and People are Falling in Love

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

New love is exciting: it makes everything better. It releases all kinds of powerful hormones in the body that elevate our moods and make it easy to overlook any potentially annoying habits of our new partner. About twenty years’ ago- as a psychotherapist working at…

Don’t Suffer

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

I used to be in a Buddhist study group. One of the main tenets of Buddhism was: Pain is part of life; suffering is optional. What this means to me is that there is no way to avoid pain and difficulty – they’re just part…

How to Lower Your Relationship Drama

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

In my work as a psychotherapist, I see it over-and-over again: a perfectly happy single person meets someone wonderful. They start to date, it gets serious and – boom! – hello relationship drama! Over the past twenty years, how many times have I heard a…

The “Right” Way to Die

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

I hadn’t planned on writing a column like this. However, I hadn’t planned on my sister dying a slow, drawn-out death either.  A year ago I was told that my little sister was not going to live long. In some ways, this wasn’t a surprise:…

Am I Ready for a Relationship?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Finding the right person who will love you for who you are is one of the great achievements of life. In my work as a psychotherapist, I meet many women and men who tell me, “I want to meet someone wonderful. I’m ready and I…

“Shoving Each Other Towards Wholeness”

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Relationships are humbling.  ALL relationships. Whether it’s with your partner, your child, your parent or your best friend…all relationships are humbling because they show us our flaws, fears and weaknesses. And yet, they are also the best path to wholeness. My grandma used to say,…

Do I Really Need Therapy?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Last week, at a dinner party, someone who knew that I was a therapist asked me, “Hey Doctor Kimmel, do I really need therapy?  I can usually handle my problems by myself. What do you think?”     My response: Perhaps “need” isn’t the most accurate…

You too can be a Saint

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Do you know the story of Saint Valentine? Neither did I. So, I researched it and found it inspiring. Here are two versions of his story: Version one: During the reign of Emperor Claudius II, Rome was involved in so many unpopular wars that it…

How to End a Relationship    

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

One thing I’m often asked, as a psychotherapist: “Should I stay in this relationship or should I go?” If the person decides to go, the next question – inevitably is – “How do I end it in the best way possible?” I’d like to break…