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You too can be a Saint

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Do you know the story of Saint Valentine? Neither did I. So, I researched it and found it inspiring. Here are two versions of his story: Version one: During the reign of Emperor Claudius II, Rome was involved in so many unpopular wars that it…

How to End a Relationship    

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

One thing I’m often asked, as a psychotherapist: “Should I stay in this relationship or should I go?” If the person decides to go, the next question – inevitably is – “How do I end it in the best way possible?” I’d like to break…

Have More Sex: It’s Good for You

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Nowadays, in many ways, sex gets a bad rap: anonymous sex, unsafe sex, addictive sex, hook-up sex…you know. I’d like to focus on the other side of sex: all the ways that it’s good for us. I researched this on-line, because – although I have…

A more confident/less anxious new year

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

It’s a new year. So what? What’s really going to change? Unless we take an active role in creating change, this new year will be pretty much like the last one. How would you like to have a more confident/less anxious year? Sounds good, doesn’t…

Holiday Hell? Here’s what you can do…

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

As a psychotherapist, this is one of the busiest times of year. Why? Because “The Holidays” bring up so many unrealistic expectations for many of us. We get depressed because we compare ourselves, our gifts and our families with what we think other people experience….

What’s on your back burner?

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Some of us are used to living in an ongoing state of crisis; we don’t know what it’s like to have a calm, peaceful life. And when we begin to feel more peaceful, it can actually be scary. We’re not used to it; it makes…

“Why am I still alone?”

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Dear Michael: I read you all the time in Gay San Diego and I usually like what you have to say, so I decided to ask you the question that, after much soul-searching, I cannot answer: why am I still alone? I am a 44-year-old gay…

Halloween Every Day

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

Now that Halloween is over, have you ever wondered why people like it so much?   We get to dress up in costumes. We get to try on other personalities. We get to be playful and creative.   Why not do this every day? Why…

Friendship and Romance

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

How do you grow a friendship? How do you encourage a brand-new romance? Are the basic underlying principles the same for both, or not? Some people – looking for love – want to skip the friendship phase of getting to know someone and go right…

Molecular Reorganization

Posted by Michael Dale Kimmel in Columns

In college, I avoided science courses as much as possible. They seemed so hard and not very relevant to my goal of becoming a psychotherapist. I stuck to psychology, sociology and counseling classes, whenever possible (there was that “Probability and Statistics” class I had to…