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Why is it so Hard to Change?

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As a psychotherapist, clients often ask me: “Why is it so hard to change?” We know what we want, we know who we want to be, and yet, it’s so hard to stop being the way we are and become this new person with healthier…

Healthy Boundaries

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If you listen to any kind of psychological advice show – from Dr. Phil to Dr. Drew – you’ll hear the therapist talking about “healthy boundaries”.  A boundary is a marker, a dividing line. It tells me where my property stops and yours starts. Psychologically, it…

Volunteering and Your Mental Health

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When I lived in Los Angeles, I used to volunteer for my church. On many Sunday afternoons, I would join a group of men and women who went downtown and fed hungry people. It wasn’t glamorous work: there are no photographers taking our pictures and…

Parenting Yourself

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Almost everyone I know complains about their parents – clients, friends and relatives alike. Our parents never got it right, did they? They always screwed up in tons of creative, hurtful ways. But what can we do about it? We can learn to parent ourselves….

My mom died, how’s your day going?

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This song – and the accompanying video – is so beautiful. Sufjan Stevens (a favorite of mine) writes/sings his feelings about his mother’s life and death. Here’s a great summary of his album, “Carrie & Lowell”: “The singer-songwriter stripped his sound down to its bare…

The Amazing Lena Dunham talks about Marriage

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I think Lena Dunham is amazing. In this article (found in the New Yorker (at http://www.newyorker.com/culture/cultural-comment/the-bride-in-her-head), Ms. Dunham talks about the future of marriage for straight people like herself, now that the excuse of waiting for LGBT folks to be able to marry is no longer…

How to Get Along with Difficult People

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No matter how wonderful your life is, its impossible to avoid difficult people. These unpleasant folks may be your neighbors, coworkers, family, clients, boss or even your partner. Regardless of who they are, how are you going to get along with them? You can’t just…