Last week I was talking with a close friend. As usual, we covered a wide range of subjects. He brought up the subject of Friendship and suggested I write a column about it, telling me:”Friendship is severely underrated, especially among men”. A client of mine told...
Have you ever met anyone whose heart had never been broken? Me neither. And yet, some people are terrified to date, socialize or fall in love because “I’ll get hurt”. A new client of mine came in and basically told me this story: “I’m such an...
Well, it’s March now, not even two months into the Trump administration, and I still hear comments like this from my clients: “I have stopped reading the news: I don’t want to know the latest awfulness to come out of Trump’s mouth.” “I dread hearing about what...
Two of my friends – a lesbian couple – recently had a child. Another friend of mine – a bisexual woman – adopted a teenager last year. Currently, my clients include: 2 gay dads with 2 kids (one adopted, one via a surrogate), a gay man and...
As a psychotherapist, I know that psychology can only take you so far. It can’t answer questions like: “Why am I here?” or “Is there a God/Goddess?” or “What is my purpose in this life?” Counseling is good with stuff like, “Should I stay in this...
In this column, I'd like to talk about the men and women who've hurt us, broke our hearts or “done us wrong” and offer you some ideas on how to forgive those who have hurt you. I was inspired to write this after reading Colin...
Haven’t you heard people say, “Oh, I’m such a Type A personality” or “You’re such a Type B person”? High-achieving folks often brag how Type A they are: “Oh, I can’t help it, I’m such a workaholic.” And Type B’s like to remind you how...
It's really trendy to talk about the mind-body connection these days. But, what does that really mean? Sure, it sounds good, but how do you make it happen in a counseling session? For me, as a psychotherapist, I like to use the techniques of Bioenergetic Analysis:...
I have clients who tell me that it’s painful for them to walk down University Avenue in Hillcrest and see all those happy couples. “It makes me feel so lonely and unwanted,” they say. When you’re single, and people around you “appear”—and I use that...
Lots of people talk about love, sing about love and write about love, but haven't you ever wondered: what exactly is “love” anyway? I recently went to a workshop where many different aspects of love were addressed and we, the participants, were encouraged to examine how...