You too can be a Saint
Do you know the story of Saint Valentine? Neither did I. So, I researched it and found it inspiring. Here are two versions of his [...]
How to End a Relationship
One thing I’m often asked, as a psychotherapist: “Should I stay in this relationship or should I go?” If the person decides to go, the [...]
Have More Sex: It’s Good for You
Nowadays, in many ways, sex gets a bad rap: anonymous sex, unsafe sex, addictive sex, hook-up sex…you know. I’d like to focus on the other [...]
A more confident/less anxious new year
It’s a new year. So what? What’s really going to change? Unless we take an active role in creating change, this new year will be [...]
Holiday Hell? Here’s what you can do…
As a psychotherapist, this is one of the busiest times of year. Why? Because “The Holidays” bring up so many unrealistic expectations for many of [...]
Are You Emotionally Sober?
Many years’ ago, I had a boyfriend who liked to call me late at night, after he’d been drinking too much. He was a sweet, sentimental [...]
What’s on your back burner?
Some of us are used to living in an ongoing state of crisis; we don’t know what it’s like to have a calm, peaceful life. [...]
You Can Fix Your Childhood
Most of us think that the bad stuff that happened to us when we were kids is hardwired into our brains. We try to change [...]
“Why am I still alone?”
Dear Michael: I read you all the time in Gay San Diego and I usually like what you have to say, so I decided to ask [...]
Halloween Every Day
Now that Halloween is over, have you ever wondered why people like it so much? We get to dress up in costumes. We get [...]
Friendship and Romance
How do you grow a friendship? How do you encourage a brand-new romance? Are the basic underlying principles the same for both, or not? Some [...]
Molecular Reorganization
In college, I avoided science courses as much as possible. They seemed so hard and not very relevant to my goal of becoming a psychotherapist. [...]