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Do I have adult Attention Deficit Disorder?

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Long ago and far away, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) were considered childhood disorders that somehow magically disappeared around adulthood. Welcome to reality: scores of recent studies have shown that ADD/ADHD is more common in adults than most health professionals…

Are you dating, hanging out or hooking up?

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Dating: the word sounds ancient, doesn’t it? Instead, we usually hear “hooking up”, a phrase that sounds pretty meaningless and shallow, or “hanging out”, a terribly vague description of spending time together. All of this leads me to ask the question: Is Dating Dead? Dating…

Why can’t I be happy and grateful?

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Dear Michael: I feel like such a fool. I have a great job, good health, a loving husband, great kid and a good group of loyal friends…but I still feel empty and miserable inside and find myself crying for no reason. What’s wrong with me? Why…

The power of humor

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Perhaps only God Himself/Herself is more important than humor.  Seriously. Psychological research has found that when people list the qualities they desire in a partner, a good sense of humor consistently shows up near the top.  For some of us, a good sense of humor is more…

Self-esteem

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Dear Michael: My friends encouraged me to write to you, but I don’t know if you can do much.  They say I have lousy self-esteem.   Maybe they’re right.  Whenever someone gives me a compliment, I think they’re after something and I don’t believe them.   Doesn’t everyone have…

Love or infatuation?

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Remember back in Junior High, when you had a “crush” on some hot guy or girl? How you could barely breathe when they were close to you? You couldn’t stop thinking of them. These “summer romances” weren’t expected to last for long. Indeed, they couldn’t,…

Stop hating yourself: the joys of getting older

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It seems like an epidemic: we’re all becoming older and feeling that we’re becoming more-and-more invisible. I get emails from mid-life men and women saying some version of: “I am physically aging much faster than I’d hoped. Who’s going to want me now?” Popular culture calls this…

For men, depression is melancholy on steroids

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Is it a weakness to feel depressed?  What is depression anyway?  Does it show up differently for men than for women?  Many people talk about depression without really knowing what it is. As a clinician, it is clear to me that depression in men often looks different than…

Letting go of a toxic parent

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You can divorce an abusive spouse. You can call it quits if your lover mistreats you. But what can you do if the source of your misery is your parent?  I’m not talking about having a perfect parent, because there aren’t any. But what if you…

When a friend dies

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Dear Michael:   We love your column in the San Diego paper. That’s why I am writing to you. My best friend just died of breast cancer.  I feel such intense and upsetting emotions, I don’t know how to resume my normal life again.  Help!   Missing…