Total Twink Fixation

Dear Michael: I have this incredible crush on a guy from my gym. He is one of the most gorgeous guys in town. I am 45, but I have this schoolgirl crush.  You know why?  Because he walked by and said “Hi” to me.   I could never get in...

Why Plastic Surgery is Never Enough

I was inspired to write this column after recently seeing an ad in a very trendy magazine. The ad began with three words - and question marks - in a very large font: "Fat? Old? Ugly?" Nice, huh? So helpful and encouraging. It was an ad for plastic...

January is Divorce Month

I didn’t make this up. I was reading a professional journal and this was mentioned in an article on counseling couples. They didn’t explain why, so I did a little research of my own to see if they just put this in the article to...

The Three Year Itch

“I’m so bored with him.” “The excitement’s gone”. “She’s so predictable; I know exactly what she’ll do.” Sound familiar?  These statements are typical of how some of my clients describe their long-term relationships.  Those of you who have never had one, pay attention: you may be able to avoid future...

A Numb New Year?

Why do we numb ourselves? What is it we don’t want to feel? Is it so bad to “take the edge off”? Of course not, but how do you get there? Do you need something external (drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping) to make you feel better,...

Your own worst enemy

Are you a jealous person? What makes you jealous? Jealousy is a form of self-sabotage. It rarely helps you get what you want. Jealousy usually is a sign that something is “off” in you. Not necessarily in others; but in you. Sure, you may have reasons to...

“I Hate the Holidays”

A recent email I got sums up many people’s attitude towards this time of year:  Dear Doctor Kimmel: I hate the Holidays! People are so fake and everyone competes with each other for the best gifts, best parties, best tree decorations, etc. What can I do to...

Psychological Santa to the Rescue!

For lots of people, December is the month from hell: this time of year often brings crazy-scary sets of expectations and dread. We are bombarded with media images encouraging us to buy stuff and to be happy…and if we don’t, we’re failures. This is a...

How to Escape the Trap of Perfectionism

Do you feel like you’re always judging/critiquing/ evaluating yourself? Are you afraid to do something you may not be good at? Are you afraid to take risks? Congratulations! You’re probably a perfectionist. The good news: perfectionists are made, not born. It is a learned set of...

Psychological Santa to the Rescue!

For lots of people, December is the month from hell: this time of year often brings crazy-scary sets of expectations and dread. We are bombarded with media images encouraging us to buy stuff and to be happy…and if we don’t, we’re failures. This is a...