The Well of Loneliness
photo by Peter Lindberg for nymag.com As a young gay boy in small-town Ohio, I read “The Well of Loneliness”, one of [...]
Why I Like Getting Older
photo courtesy of nymag.com If you believe advertising, getting older is a mistake, a weakness. If you get older and look older, you’ve [...]
How to have a low stress life
Today I got a call from a new client, who asked me, “Can you help me lower my stress and anxiety? I don’t want to [...]
What is “Love” Anyway?
I love working with couples: they come to me, wanting to improve their communications, work out problems between them and deepen their love. In couples’ [...]
The Anatomy of an Affair
photo courtesy of nymag.com How do affairs happen? Typically, in my psychotherapy office, when I work with a couple that is struggling with [...]
Not Out to Your Doctor?
As an openly-gay mental health professional, I have long assumed that most LGBT folks are out to their health providers. Wrong! Recently, I was asked [...]
Burned out at work?
I see a lot of clients who have problems with their jobs. They tell me they feel burned out at work. I define this kind [...]
Top/Bottom/Versatile
I was recently at a party where I was asked, “As a therapist, can you tell me why there are so many more bottoms than [...]
No one’s faithful anymore
Dear Michael: I am so disgusted with our community. It seems that nobody is faithful to their partner anymore. I was in a 10-year relationship [...]
The Psychology of Shopping (and Hoarding)
I enjoy shopping. In small doses. Occasionally, it’s fun to go into stores and see what’s there. I used to shop a lot more. When [...]
My friends are getting all “spiritual” on me
Dear Michael: I have friends who seem to have it all (plenty of money, great jobs, hot boyfriends) and they are all going off to [...]
How to have a Happy Summer
Summers are supposed to be happy, right? Carefree, easy, laid-back…and, yet, so often, they’re not. This column is about how to make this summer one [...]