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San Diego-based, California-licensed psychotherapist, assisting clients in achieving their goals and becoming the men and women they want to be.
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Codependence And Caretaking

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Dear Michael: My elderly parents live in Cleveland. So far, they’ve been okay, but lately my dad’s health is shaky and my mom’s mental state isn’t the greatest. I am the only child who lives nearby; my brother and sister live in Montana and Florida,…

7 Steps Toward A Happier You

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I am always interested in learning something new about how to have a happier, healthier, more peaceful and prosperous life. As a psychotherapist, I share these ideas and techniques with my clients and now I’d like to share some of them with you: Step 1:…

When Food Is Your Best Friend

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Dear Michael: I am 32 years old, 5’6” and I weigh 210 pounds.  I’ve weighed this much most of my adult life.  Why?  I love to eat.  Food is my friend, my best friend. Sometimes, my only friend.  After dating a few men, who only wanted to use me because…

Why Don’t You Want To Go Home?

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A Japanese labor bureau has ruled that one of Toyota’s top car engineers – aged 45 – has died from working too many hours.  In the two months up to his death, the man averaged more than 80 hours of overtime per month.  In Japan, deaths from…

When You’re New In Town

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Dear Michael: I am a new guy in town and feeling very lonely.  Don’t give me the usual advice “get out there and mingle and get involved” because I’ve heard this so often I’ll puke if you give me that rap again.  I’m handsome, successful and a…

What your loneliness can teach you

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Loneliness is a topic that no one wants to talk about. My clients tell me stuff like: “It’s too depressing”. “It’s so intense.” and “There’s nothing I can do about it”. I refuse to get all depressed and hopeless about loneliness. Yeah, I experience it…

The Power of Humor

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Perhaps only God Himself/Herself is more important than humor.  Seriously. Psychological research has found that when people list the qualities they desire in a partner, a good sense of humor consistently shows up near the top.  For some of us, a good sense of humor is more…

Give Yourself The Gift Of Meditation

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What can you give yourself that would really make your life a whole lot better?  Sure, a new car or a fabulous home would be great.  But, let’s dig deeper: what could REALLY change your life? How about meditation? “Ugh”, I hear you say, “How boring. This…

Talking about Sex in Couples’ Counseling

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Below is a link to a great article on how some psychotherapists are talking about sex with their clients in couples’ counseling. It cites one of my favorite psychotherapists – Esther Perel (whose book you can find on the bookstore page of this website). Recently,…

But I like being Shallow

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Dear Michael: I am a really shallow person and I enjoy it.  I like to spend my time focusing on fashion and movies and music and going out to clubs, going dancing and getting laid.   Most of my friends are this way too and we have…