Psychological Santa to the Rescue!
For lots of people, December is the month from hell: this time of year often brings crazy-scary sets of expectations and dread. We are bombarded [...]
How to Escape the Trap of Perfectionism
Do you feel like you’re always judging/critiquing/ evaluating yourself? Are you afraid to do something you may not be good at? Are you afraid to [...]
Psychological Santa to the Rescue!
For lots of people, December is the month from hell: this time of year often brings crazy-scary sets of expectations and dread. We are bombarded [...]
All I want for Christmas is the Perfect Relationship
As Christmas nears, many of my single clients want Santa to bring them the perfect relationship and leave it under the tree (nicely-wrapped, of course). [...]
Sigmund goes to Palm Springs
For many of us LGBT San Diegans, winter and spring are the perfect times to go to Palm Springs: the weather is great and it's [...]
12 Steps for the Rest of Us
While I am not a member of a 12 step program, I find the 12 steps are useful for anyone struggling with an addictiion. In [...]
The Trans Community and Me
photo of Janet Mock courtesy of salon.com For several years, people have asked me to write a column about the transgender (aka "trans") [...]
Feeling Safe
This is not the column I expected to write this week. I did not expect to awaken with dread the morning after the recent election. [...]
The PTSD Experience
In the world of psychology, PTSD – post-traumatic stress disorder - is how doctors describe the experience of recovering from trauma. This term was created [...]
What Do You Do With Your Anger?
Yesterday, a client told me, “I’m so angry about how my boss treated me”. I asked him, “So, what did you do with your anger?” [...]
When Life Pulls the Rug Out From Under You…
There is no way to avoid major changes/upsets in our lives. No matter how carefully we plan, the Universe has a mind of its own. [...]
When Things Fall Apart
Maybe bad news does come in threes. Recently a friend of mine was diagnosed with breast cancer, another friend had an emergency C-section and the [...]