Why I Love Cowboys

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I love cowboys because they: are steady and sweet, keep their cards close to their chests, only open up when they know you’re trustworthy, are solid and low-key in their loving (platonic and romantic), know a lot about animals and how to care for them, are respectful to others, specially...

Why is Everyone So Anxious?

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Have you noticed how anxious, worried and edgy most people are lately? Have you experienced these feelings yourself? If so, you can relax: you’re “normal” (that’s not a word I often use, but sometimes it’s useful).  These are difficult times: I am 66 years old and...

How Much Sex Should I Be Having?

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I’ve been a psychotherapist for about twenty years; before that I was a middle school counselor in San Francisco, preschool teacher in the Bronx, social worker for terminally ill children and their families at San Diego Hospice, helped parents regain custody of their kids for...

Have More Love

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It’s a new year. Most of us want some things to change. We’d like more money, a better job, our partner to drop their annoying habits, our boss to be nicer, our car to be newer…that kind of stuff. But, bottom line, don’t most of us...

How to Feel Less Anxious

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It’s pretty easy to feel anxious these days, especially with climate change, attacks on LGBTQ rights and a government led by someone as mentally unstable as Donald Trump. After suffering from panic attacks myself – and helping my clients with anxiety/worry/fears/ phobias - here are some...

Are You Ready for Marriage?

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Choosing a partner is one of most important decisions any of us will ever make. It determines the harmony – or lack of it – that we will experience in every area of our lives. Unfortunately, the statistics (based on predominantly heterosexual marriages) do not paint...

90 Seconds

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I used to hate science in high school. In my class of 68 people (Wellington High School class of 1971), our biology teacher was completely incompetent and our physics teacher gave you extra credit if you went to the high school wrestling matches (you guessed...

5 Questions (and answers) on The Art of Aging Well

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Since I decided to offer a workshop here in San Diego on the above topic, I have been talking about it on social media. Surprisingly, I’ve gotten tons of questions about why I’m doing it. For you loyal readers of my website/Facebook page, I’ve narrowed the...

Cry. Laugh. Feel.

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Many people tell me that I don’t look my age (66). When they ask me: “What’s your secret?” I can honestly say, “Feeling your feelings is crucial.” That doesn’t mean you have to express your feelings to or at another person (that creates drama, and is a...

The Best Sleep Ever

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Sleep: beautiful, wonderful, drowsy, deep, restful sleep. Don’t we love it? Isn’t it one of the best things in life? Doesn’t it keep us well-rested, content and healthy? And isn’t it a drag when we can’t have it? I was talking with a client recently about sleep....