How to Have Safe Sex: Now

As things continue to “open up”, what about sex? When will that “open up”? I am not an epidemiologist, but I’ve been reading a lot of medical/science stuff relating to sex lately, in addition to hearing how my friends and clients are having sex now. Sex...

ALOR: Acceptable Levels of Risk

These days, a lot of my conversations with clients and friends include talking about acceptable levels of risk (aka, “ALOR”). As things open back up, what kinds of risk are you comfortable with? Are you comfortable going to a restaurant? A bar? A barber shop?...

Love in the Time of COVID

The title of this column was inspired by the novel “Love in the Time of Cholera”, written by Colombian author Gabriel Garcia Marquez, first published in Spanish in 1985 and in English in 1988. From my research, I discovered that seven cholera pandemics have occurred...

The New Normal

In a pandemic, our old ideas about how life works no longer apply. We don’t know when or how this time of quarantining will end. Hell, we can’t even predict what will happen next week, so much is changing so fast. As a psychotherapist, it’s clear...

Strengthen Your Immune System

In the past few days, I’ve been getting a lot of texts and phone calls from clients who are worried about the Coronavirus (COVID-19) and want to know, “What can I do? How can I help my immune system?” I am no physician, but as...

Power, Love & Presence

As young people, most of us start off feeling pretty powerful. We have the confidence, naiveté and energy of our twenties and are excited about all the sweet, untasted possibilities of life. In our thirties, we get our first taste of being older: we are no...