Let’s Stick Together, Support Each Other and Thrive
I used to be in a SoCal gay men’s leadership group. My friends Jim and Peter started it about 20 years’ ago. The group had [...]
How to End it With Your Therapist
Have you ever had a therapist? If so, how did you decide when your work together was done? As a therapist for over twenty years’ [...]
Sorry/Not Sorry
When I lived in England, I was surprised how many times I heard people say, “Sorry”. Not “I’m sorry”, just “Sorry”. It seemed like the [...]
Psychedelics and Your Mental Health
After being classified - for decades - as illegal and controlled substances, medical science is finally realizing the value of psychedelics like psilocybin (magic mushrooms), [...]
What Are You Putting in Your Mouth?
We have so many choices of foods, beverages and substances that we can eat, drink and consume. How do you decide what you put into [...]
Monogamy, Polyamory, or Something Else?
In the LGBTQ community, our relationships don’t always mirror heteronormative ones. I discovered this over twenty years’ ago as I started working as a psychotherapist [...]
Let’s Talk About Porn
I had a client who was a porn producer. He didn’t particularly enjoy it, “You can’t believe how boring it is to make porn”, he [...]
Twink Death
Getting older (and looking it) is a terrible thing; I call it “Twink Death”. Staying young forever is what we want. Right? When we’re in [...]
Meaningful Relationships = Powerful Workshops
Nothing brings up your unresolved issues like a meaningful relationship. It might be a romantic relationship, but it doesn’t have to be: your relationship with [...]
Why I Meditate
What exactly is meditation? As someone who has been meditating (on-and-off) since 1975, I have gone through many stages and phases of meditation. I have [...]
The Church of Body Worship
So many New Year resolutions have to do with the body: we want it slimmer or more muscular. We decide to eat healthier, choose a [...]
Forgiving Our Fathers
On Christmas, I was talking with a friend who had retired from 14 years of working as a Jail Chaplain. He told me that during [...]