Pride is Great: What’s Next?
photo by Youngjun Koo for nymag.com Pride is good, great stuff. For so long the LGBT community suffered from the opposite of pride: shame. We [...]
Good Boys and Bad Boys
photo courtesy of Lionsgate Films Recently, I've seen quite a few of my male clients who find that their balance is off. The balance [...]
A psychological look at HIV
I am sometimes asked to help facilitate workshops for people who are HIV-positive (HIV+). As an HIV-negative (HIV-) person, I consider this quite an honor…and I have [...]
Nice guys bore me
Dear Michael: I feel like a stereotype, but it’s true: I only want men I can’t have, and then when I get them (which I [...]
What is emotional monogamy and could it be good for me?
Now that we LGBT folks can get married: do we want to? For many of us, the real question is: whether we get married or not, [...]
I just want to be normal
photo by youngjun koo for nymag.com Recently, I was shocked to hear a new client tell me, “I don’t want to be gay, [...]
Alfred Camus and the Haters
photo courtesy of Lionsgate Pictures I get some interesting emails as a columnist and psychotherapist. Here’s one on a subject you might [...]
How To Retire Happy (The R-M-O Method)
What does it mean to retire? Let’s expand the definition beyond “to stop working”. After all, maybe our grandparents wanted to stop working entirely, and [...]
Are you dating, hanging out or hooking up?
photo by youngjun koo for nymag.com Dating: the word sounds ancient, doesn’t it? Instead, we usually hear “hooking up”, a phrase that sounds [...]
Too Much Texting; Not Enough Love
As a psychotherapist, I’ve been noticing more-and-more relationships end by texting. In all too many situations, texting is winning out over love. It’s not hard [...]
Why can’t I be happy and grateful?
Dear Michael: I feel like such a fool. I have a great job, good health, a loving husband, great kid and a good group of loyal [...]
The power of humor
photo by Madigan Heck for nymag.com Perhaps only God Himself/Herself is more important than humor. Seriously. Psychological research has found that when people list [...]