Self-esteem
Dear Michael: My friends encouraged me to write to you, but I don’t know if you can do much. They say I have lousy self-esteem. Maybe [...]
Love or infatuation?
photo by youngjun foo for nymag.com Remember back in Junior High, when you had a “crush” on some hot guy or girl? How [...]
Stop hating yourself: the joys of getting older
photo by youngjun koo for nymag.com It seems like an epidemic: we’re all becoming older and feeling that we’re becoming more-and-more invisible. I get [...]
For men, depression is melancholy on steroids
Is it a weakness to feel depressed? What is depression anyway? Does it show up differently for men than for women? Many people talk about depression without really [...]
Letting go of a toxic parent
photo of a Mark Rothko painting, courtesy of Sothebys You can divorce an abusive spouse. You can call it quits if your lover [...]
When a friend dies
photo courtesy of nymag.com Dear Michael: We love your column in the San Diego paper. That's why I am writing to you. [...]
Blame, revenge and forgiveness
Dear Michael: I feel like such an idiot. I allowed myself to fall in love with this guy who really wasn’t that interested in me. I thought [...]
The New Middle Age
Susan Sarandon on the cover of "V" Magazine Middle Age. Over the Hill. Past your Prime. Do these phrases inspire you to live [...]
HDRs: High Drama Relationships
You’ve probably heard some people describe their relationships as “high drama”. I Googled “drama” and found some interesting definitions: (1) a crisis, spectacle, thrill, sensation or [...]
Codependence: When friendship goes bad
Dear Michael, For several years I was friends with someone. He ended it abruptly and refuses to talk to me. It’s no problem with me [...]
Why Can’t I Sleep?
So many of my clients (and friends) complain about poor sleep or lack of sleep. Why do so many of us not sleep long, well and [...]
Making major life changes
Dear Michael: I am a 19-year-old, newly-out lesbian who is moving to NYC for college, and I am scared shitless. I?ve lived in SD all [...]