How to Fix a Saggy Sex Life
Dear Doctor Kimmel: I am in a 20-year relationship that, in general, is really good. The problem is that the sex has virtually disappeared, even [...]
Sex as Sport
There’s talk in the air – particularly among my 20-something LGBT clients – of “sex as sport”. What does this mean? From what I hear, it’s about [...]
Fathers and Mothers
As we’re about halfway between Father’s Day and Mother’s Day, it feels timely to write a column addressing how our fathers and mothers affect our [...]
How to Enjoy Clothes Shopping (especially for Men)
photo courtesy of nymag.com In the mid-1980's in Manhattan, I was a personal shopper for professional men and women. It was good experience [...]
How Affairs Happen (and what you can do to stop them)
a still photo from the brilliant movie: "Belle" How do affairs happen? Typically, in my psychotherapy office, when I work with a couple [...]
BFLK
photo courtesy of gayguys.com After the last Folsom Street Fair, a client said that he saw me on a list of “kink-friendly” therapists. [...]
Give yourself the gift of meditation
It’s trendy to meditate. Movie stars do it, the Dalai Lama does it, even your next-door neighbor does it. But what is it? Meditation is about [...]
How can I be happy?
photo courtesy of nymag.com Dear Michael: I know you’ll never print this in your column, because it’s too hard a question (even Dear [...]
How to have Great Sex
Everyone wants to have great sex, but the “ingredients” seem elusive. I’d like to suggest that great sex requires elements of both aggression and tenderness. Some [...]
A broken heart
photograph by Kevin Tachman Who among us hasn’t has our heart broken, at least once? It’s impossible to get through life without it. [...]
When you’re the “other” (wo)man
Dear Michael: I’ve noticed you give good advice to people in thorny situations, so here’s another one: I went to a party and met this [...]
Does Meditation Really Work?
Dear Michael: Recently a friend told me that I should meditate. I really don’t know what meditation is. I am not into religion or spirituality or that [...]