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Psychological Santa to the Rescue!

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For lots of people, December is the month from hell: this time of year often brings crazy-scary sets of expectations and dread. We are bombarded with media images encouraging us to buy stuff and to be happy…and if we don’t, we’re failures. This is a…

How to Escape the Trap of Perfectionism

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Do you feel like you’re always judging/critiquing/ evaluating yourself? Are you afraid to do something you may not be good at? Are you afraid to take risks? Congratulations! You’re probably a perfectionist. The good news: perfectionists are made, not born. It is a learned set…

Psychological Santa to the Rescue!

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For lots of people, December is the month from hell: this time of year often brings crazy-scary sets of expectations and dread. We are bombarded with media images encouraging us to buy stuff and to be happy…and if we don’t, we’re failures. This is a…

12 Steps for the Rest of Us

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While I am not a member of a 12 step program, I find the 12 steps are useful for anyone struggling with an addictiion. In reality, most of us have some kind of addictive or compulsive behavior that interferes with our happiness. In his book…

Feeling Safe

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This is not the column I expected to write this week. I did not expect to awaken with dread the morning after the recent election. I didn’t want to get out of bed. I didn’t want to face a world where Donald Trump was the…

The PTSD Experience

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In the world of psychology, PTSD – post-traumatic stress disorder – is how doctors describe the experience of recovering from trauma. This term was created in1980 and was used to describe soldiers coming back from war: these men and women had often killed people and…

What Do You Do With Your Anger?

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Yesterday, a client told me, “I’m so angry about how my boss treated me”. I asked him, “So, what did you do with your anger?” He said, “I yelled at some people I work with. Tomorrow, I need to apologize to them.” We all get…

Dating with the Buddha

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How can you bring spirituality and humor to dating? Or, as one writer so aptly put it: What if the Buddha dated? How would he handle getting to know someone? How would he bring spirituality and “enlightenment” to the process? Although as far as I…

Can You Be Happy For Someone Else?

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There’s a word in Buddhism – Muditā – that means “celebrating the success of others”. The first time I heard it, at a meditation retreat in Northern California, I wondered “Why is the teacher talking about this? What does this have to do with feeling…