5 Questions (and answers) on The Art of Aging Well
Since I decided to offer a workshop here in San Diego on the above topic, I have been talking about it on social media. Surprisingly, [...]
Cry. Laugh. Feel.
Many people tell me that I don’t look my age (66). When they ask me: “What’s your secret?” I can honestly say, “Feeling your feelings [...]
I Don’t Want to Get Older
Dear Michael: I don’t want to get older. I look at old gay men and I don’t like what I see. I don’t want to [...]
The Best Sleep Ever
Sleep: beautiful, wonderful, drowsy, deep, restful sleep. Don’t we love it? Isn’t it one of the best things in life? Doesn’t it keep us well-rested, [...]
Beyond Pride
This column is the result of a question I’ve been asking myself lately: What is “beyond” pride? Another way to put it is: “What comes [...]
It’s Summertime and People are Falling in Love
New love is exciting: it makes everything better. It releases all kinds of powerful hormones in the body that elevate our moods and make it [...]
Don’t Suffer
I used to be in a Buddhist study group. One of the main tenets of Buddhism was: Pain is part of life; suffering is optional. [...]
Moving Fast; Never Satisfied
This is a tale of two men. The first guy, Carlos* was in his mid-thirties. When I met him, he talked so fast and thought [...]
How to Lower Your Relationship Drama
In my work as a psychotherapist, I see it over-and-over again: a perfectly happy single person meets someone wonderful. They start to date, it gets [...]
The “Right” Way to Die
I hadn’t planned on writing a column like this. However, I hadn’t planned on my sister dying a slow, drawn-out death either. A year ago [...]
Am I Ready for a Relationship?
Finding the right person who will love you for who you are is one of the great achievements of life. In my work as a [...]
How A Library Saved my Life
My book at the Mission Hills-Hillcrest library Wellington, Ohio had a few more than 2,000 people when I was growing up there. It [...]