Good Dad Energy: Regardless of our Gender, Every One of Us has It!
As Father’s Day approaches (June 20th), I want to talk about Good Dad Energy. Lots of us didn’t have very good dads: some of us [...]
A more confident/less anxious new year
It’s a new year. So what? What’s really going to change? Unless we take an active role in creating change, this new year [...]
How to be Happier
America ranked 19th in the U.N.’s most recent World Happiness Report, behind happier places like Finland (No. 1), Australia (No. 12) and Canada (No. 15). [...]
Your New Life – Discovering Liminal Space
Yesterday, the CDC eased its guidance on masking for us fully-vaccinated folks, saying those of us who have received all our shots can now safely [...]
Balancing Sexual Expression with Emotional Connection (Part Two)
In every open (non-monogamous) relationship – legally married or not - we determine how to balance the love and sexual energy we give to our [...]
Balancing Sexual Expression with Emotional Connection (Part One)
Ever since my book on open and monogamous marriage came out in 2017, I’ve had a steady stream of men and women - both queer [...]
Do We Really Want to Go Back to Our Old Routines?
It’s been a year since I closed my Kensington office, moved my work online and began working out of my home office. And what a [...]
The Easiest Way to Look Younger
More-and-more plastic surgeons want me to meet with their clients - before they have a facelift - to see if the client’s expectations are realistic. [...]
Conflict Can Be Good for You
Over the past twenty-some years, I’ve heard dozens of clients say: “I absolutely hate conflict.” “Does every relationship – even a good one - have [...]
The 5% Possibility: A Terrific Tool from Internal Family Systems Therapy
Change is hard. We want to change how we handle things, how we talk to people, how we treat ourselves. We decide: “It’s time to [...]
Are You Drinking More During the Pandemic?
Celebrity/model/witty person Chrissy Teigen recently went public with her decision to quit drinking. As a psychotherapist for San Diego’s LGBTQ community, I’ve observed that the [...]
Can Therapy Work in Just a Few Sessions?
When people are considering psychotherapy/counseling, they usually ask me “How long do you think it will take?” People who have a very specific problem [...]