Do I Need Anger Management?

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Dear Michael: I am embarrassed to be writing to you, but so what?  I am 37 years old, and angry all the time.   The weird thing is, I don’t know exactly what I’m angry about, but I have to admit that lately my anger seems out of control.  I...

Old on the Outside

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Recently, a client told me: “I feel old on the outside, but so young on the inside. Why doesn’t anyone see this or understand? I am just learning (in my mid-sixties) how to enjoy myself and not worry about what other people think of me. I’m...

How to Live

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The title of this column kept tapping me on the shoulder. For three days, I tried resisting, but, my intuition prevailed; so here we are. Obviously, there is no one way to live. We each do it differently. We are supposed to. We are here to...

My Peace Does Not Lie in The World

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How do you find peace of mind? With so many difficult people and situations in our lives, how do we not just lose it over-and-over again? After pursuing peace through many means over the past several decades, I have learned some things that have become practical...

But I’ll get hurt

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Have you ever met anyone whose heart had never been broken? Me neither. And yet, some people are terrified to date, socialize or fall in love because “I’ll get hurt”. A new client of mine came in and basically told me this story: “I’m such an...

Spiritual or religious? What’s the difference?

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As a psychotherapist, I know that psychology can only take you so far. It can’t answer questions like: “Why am I here?” or “Is there a God/Goddess?” or “What is my purpose in this life?” Counseling is good with stuff like, “Should I stay in this...

How To Forgive

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In this column, I'd like to talk about the men and women who've hurt us, broke our hearts or “done us wrong” and offer you some ideas on how to forgive those who have hurt you. I was inspired to write this after reading Colin...

Are you Type A, B, C or D?

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Haven’t you heard people say, “Oh, I’m such a Type A personality” or “You’re such a Type B person”? High-achieving folks often brag how Type A they are: “Oh, I can’t help it, I’m such a workaholic.” And Type B’s like to remind you how...

The mind-body connection in psychotherapy

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It's really trendy to talk about the mind-body connection these days. But, what does that really mean? Sure, it sounds good, but how do you make it happen in a counseling session? For me, as a psychotherapist, I like to use the techniques of Bioenergetic Analysis:...

Why Plastic Surgery is Never Enough

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I was inspired to write this column after recently seeing an ad in a very trendy magazine. The ad began with three words - and question marks - in a very large font: "Fat? Old? Ugly?" Nice, huh? So helpful and encouraging. It was an ad for plastic...