Friendship and Romance
How do you grow a friendship? How do you encourage a brand-new romance? Are the basic underlying principles the same for both, or not? Some [...]
Molecular Reorganization
In college, I avoided science courses as much as possible. They seemed so hard and not very relevant to my goal of becoming a psychotherapist. [...]
Lower the Wall
So many of us feel lonely: we spend countless hours on Instagram or other social media trying to feel connected, like we matter to someone. [...]
I want to be wild!
A few weeks’ ago, a well-adjusted bisexual guy came into my office. He was handsome, smart, successful and quite happy with his life. So, I [...]
You are the Cake
If you’re single: do you ever feel lonely and wish that someone wonderful would love you? If you’re coupled: do you ever feel lonely and [...]
The Marvels of Midlife
When I was 20, I thought that my sex life would be over at 40. When I was 30, I thought that my best years [...]
Look for the Helpers
This is not the column I had planned to write. But, this week I’ve been very inspired by two experiences: The terrific LGBT Exhibit at [...]
Pride 2018: “A moment of great urgency”
Recently, speaking here in Southern California, former President Obama said, "This is a moment of great urgency. You are right to be concerned. The progress [...]
How to be Alone
I have lived alone many times, in many places, e.g.; Dayton, Ohio; Louisville, Kentucky; Paris, London, New York City and San Francisco. I have also [...]
An Intimacy Tune-Up
People use the term “intimacy” very loosely, but, what exactly is it? The meaning of intimacy varies from relationship to relationship. To me, it has [...]
How’s Your Sex Life?
Sex is great right? Lots of fun. Easy, no problems. Always available when you want it. Your libido is strong and will do whatever you [...]
Bisexual, Pansexual, Queer, Non-binary or Something else?
I recently met a new client, a man who identified as bisexual. He asked me, at our first session, “Do you believe in bisexuality?” I [...]