Have you ever met anyone whose heart had never been broken? Me neither. And yet, some people are terrified to date, socialize or fall in love because “I’ll get hurt”. A new client of mine came in and basically told me this story: “I’m such…
As a psychotherapist, I know that psychology can only take you so far. It can’t answer questions like: “Why am I here?” or “Is there a God/Goddess?” or “What is my purpose in this life?” Counseling is good with stuff like, “Should I stay in…
In this column, I’d like to talk about the men and women who’ve hurt us, broke our hearts or “done us wrong” and offer you some ideas on how to forgive those who have hurt you. I was inspired to write this after reading Colin…
Haven’t you heard people say, “Oh, I’m such a Type A personality” or “You’re such a Type B person”? High-achieving folks often brag how Type A they are: “Oh, I can’t help it, I’m such a workaholic.” And Type B’s like to remind you how…
It’s really trendy to talk about the mind-body connection these days. But, what does that really mean? Sure, it sounds good, but how do you make it happen in a counseling session? For me, as a psychotherapist, I like to use the techniques of Bioenergetic…
I was inspired to write this column after recently seeing an ad in a very trendy magazine. The ad began with three words – and question marks – in a very large font: “Fat? Old? Ugly?” Nice, huh? So helpful and encouraging. It was an ad…
I didn’t make this up. I was reading a professional journal and this was mentioned in an article on counseling couples. They didn’t explain why, so I did a little research of my own to see if they just put this in the article to…
Why do we numb ourselves? What is it we don’t want to feel? Is it so bad to “take the edge off”? Of course not, but how do you get there? Do you need something external (drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping) to make you feel better,…
For lots of people, December is the month from hell: this time of year often brings crazy-scary sets of expectations and dread. We are bombarded with media images encouraging us to buy stuff and to be happy…and if we don’t, we’re failures. This is a…
Do you feel like you’re always judging/critiquing/ evaluating yourself? Are you afraid to do something you may not be good at? Are you afraid to take risks? Congratulations! You’re probably a perfectionist. The good news: perfectionists are made, not born. It is a learned set…
