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Should I stay or should I go?

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Often clients ask me, “Should I stay with my partner or should I go?” This is obviously not a question I can answer for them, so I help them look at the big picture – their expectations, the reality of their relationship, their old patterns…

Recommendations

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For quite some time now, I have been recommending local health care professionals to my San Diego clients. I would now like to make those recommendations available here. These are my own personal recommendations and, no, I don’t get any referral fees if you choose…

It’s Not the Alcohol; it’s You

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Dear Michael: I have been with my partner for several years’ now. Our sex life isn’t great, but everything else is good. Last week, I was out of town for work, went to a bar and, after too many drinks, ended up going home with…

Becoming More Resilient

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The same bad thing can happen to two people: one gets really down and depressed for a few days/weeks, the other bounces back to “normal“ within a few hours. What’s the difference? When I worked for Child Protective Services, we talked about “resilient children” and…

Go to the Mirror

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Mirror work is something I first tried about 30 years’ ago. I went to a workshop in West Hollywood where author/teacher Louise Hay encouraged people to talk to themselves in the mirror. I thought it was pretty weird and resisted it, at first. But today…

How to Be Popular

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There are hundreds of books and videos on how to be popular. In this column, I’d like to talk about some of the personality characteristics I’ve noticed over the years in clients, friends and colleagues who were particularly loved and cherished. If you’re feeling lonely…

Time for a Social Media Vacay?

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First it was my 19-year-old goddaughter. Then my 30-year-old niece. Now it’s my 45-year-old male client. What do these people have in common? They have each decided it’s time for a vacation from social media (or vacay, as my goddaughter calls it). Last week, I…

The Untethered Soul

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Have you ever wondered: How can I become less reactive and impulsive? How can I turn down the noisy voice(s) in my head and experience more peace of mind? Michael A. Singer’s book – “The Untethered Soul” – answers questions like these. In the book,…

How to Handle Disappointment

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What do you do when you are disappointed? How do you handle it? That’s what this column is about. Recently, I experienced a surprising disappointment. I had contacted the Mayor’s office, asking for assistance with a City-related problem and did not receive the help I’d…

Real Change

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Whenever I meet with a new client, I usually hear some version of: how can I make my life better? How can I make real changes that last? How can I be less stressed out? Less lonely? Make more money? I can’t promise answers to…