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Are You Attracting or Pushing Away Love?

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Love is more easily experienced than defined. Google said that the question: “What is love?” is one of its most popular searches. I like how philosopher Julian Baggini defines love: “Love is not one thing. Love for parents, partners, children, neighbor, God and so on…

“Youth” and “Spotlight”

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I rarely mention movies on this website, but, recently, I saw two very powerful movies that I heartily recommend:  “Youth” is an amazing, somewhat surreal movie set at a health spa for wealthy people. Jane Fonda, Michael Caine, Harvey Keitel and Paul Dano give wonderful…

How a hook-up can open your heart

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What happens when you meet someone through a sexual experience and then discover that there might be more…much more. How do you turn sex into love? Or can you? As a psychotherapist, I encourage my clients to see a good relationship as a marriage (pun…

A New Definition of Peace

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Lots of people make New Year’s Resolutions. I don’t recommend them. Usually, they are impossible to keep and make us feel worse about ourselves when we “break” them. Instead, why not ask yourself: What is it I really want in the coming year? For many…

Friendless in San Diego

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Dear Michael:  I don’t seem to be very good at making – or keeping – friends. I’m kind of a loner and always have been, but I’d like a friend to hang around with, especially at this time of year. I’ve not been a very…

The Power of Silence

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Recently, I was asked to co-facilitate a workshop with the above title. I wasn’t sure I really wanted to do it. After all, I thought, what’s so great about silence? So, I did some research and was surprised at what I found. I discovered that…

Fantasy Sex

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It’s so hard not to compare ourselves to other people. No matter how hard we try, somebody else always seems to have a better life than we do, a better partner, job, car, home or body. This comparison thing also extends to sex. We imagine…

The New Middle Age

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Consider these phrases: “Middle Aged”. “Over the Hill”. “Past Your Prime”. Do they inspire you to live a long, healthy and happy life? Me neither. I love the slogan of the organization Aging as Ourselves:  “Age doesn’t define me; my attitude does.” Sounds good, doesn’t it?…

How to Raise Your Self-Esteem

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Self-Esteem is a phrase that you hear a lot in the media. I’d like to talk a bit about what self-esteem is and how you can improve yours. When I worked for Kaiser-Permanente Psychiatry and Addiction Medicine, I facilitated the “Healthy Relationships Support Group” (which…