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The Power of Silence

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Recently, I was asked to co-facilitate a workshop with the above title. I wasn’t sure I really wanted to do it. After all, I thought, what’s so great about silence? So, I did some research and was surprised at what I found. I discovered that…

Fantasy Sex

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It’s so hard not to compare ourselves to other people. No matter how hard we try, somebody else always seems to have a better life than we do, a better partner, job, car, home or body. This comparison thing also extends to sex. We imagine…

The New Middle Age

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Consider these phrases: “Middle Aged”. “Over the Hill”. “Past Your Prime”. Do they inspire you to live a long, healthy and happy life? Me neither. I love the slogan of the organization Aging as Ourselves:  “Age doesn’t define me; my attitude does.” Sounds good, doesn’t it?…

How to Raise Your Self-Esteem

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Self-Esteem is a phrase that you hear a lot in the media. I’d like to talk a bit about what self-esteem is and how you can improve yours. When I worked for Kaiser-Permanente Psychiatry and Addiction Medicine, I facilitated the “Healthy Relationships Support Group” (which…

Do I have enough?

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As a psychotherapist, over the years’ I’ve heard many people say that they don’t have enough of the good things in life. This column looks at a few of the things that I think really matter: Fun: Enjoyment, amusement and pleasure…that’s a good definition of…

Why is it so Hard to Change?

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As a psychotherapist, clients often ask me: “Why is it so hard to change?” We know what we want, we know who we want to be, and yet, it’s so hard to stop being the way we are and become this new person with healthier…

Healthy Boundaries

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If you listen to any kind of psychological advice show – from Dr. Phil to Dr. Drew – you’ll hear the therapist talking about “healthy boundaries”.  A boundary is a marker, a dividing line. It tells me where my property stops and yours starts. Psychologically, it…