Practical Spirituality

I don’t consider myself religious, but I do consider myself to be on a spiritual path. I want a kind of spirituality that is practical: something I can use every day to enjoy my life more. Spirituality can exist within the context of religion or not....

The Best Gift of All

Fatigued from an overload of shopping, spending, and travel? You’re not alone. Most people describe this time of year – Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, New Year’s Eve and other celebrated holidays - as stressful instead of enjoyable.  A 2016 telephone survey conducted by the American Psychological Association...

What I learned on my Book Tour

I’ve just finished six months as an openly gay author out there in the - overwhelmingly straight - publishing world talking about my book: “The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage”. As a first-time author, I really had no idea what I was in...

Talking with the Enemy

I was hiking with a friend at Torrey Pines and we stopped to take in the view. A fellow hiker stopped near us and a pleasant conversation began. It was going smoothly until this person said how right Trump was to get rid of Obamacare....

Body Shame? You’re Not Alone

My queer clients have it; my straight male clients have it; my older (and you’d hope wiser) clients have it. Even I have it. A good friend of mine wants to start yoga, but, told me, “I went to the class and everyone was so skinny. I...

The Tao of Travel   

For seven years I read the book “365 Tao” and did the daily meditations. Taoism – an ancient Eastern philosophy – emphasizes compassion, spontaneity and harmony with nature. It says “go with the flow” and don’t be attached to things happening in a certain way....

Prestige, Power and Possessions

The above title came from a TED talk I watched recently. In it, the speaker - a contented, wise elder - said that only young people expect that prestige, power and possessions will bring them happiness, and that spending a lifetime searching for them is...

How to Say Goodbye

I just saw the documentary “Restless Creature” at the Digital Gym in North Park. In the film, New York City Ballet star Wendy Whelen talks about “how to say goodbye” to her thirty-plus year career as a prima ballerina. At the age of 47, Ms....