Surprise! I was Wrong.
When I wrote the initial proposal for my book, it was called “The Queer Person’s Guide to Love, Monogamy and Open Relationships” and it addressed [...]
This year: Do It Differently
Are you a “Happy Holidays!” or “Bah, Humbug!” person? For many of us, the holidays bring crazy-making expectations. We’re bombarded with media images encouraging us [...]
How to Balance your Heart, Mind and Genitals
Romance. Sex. Intimacy. Hooking up. Hanging out. Do I have your attention? As men-who-love-men, we want all things from all men. We want hot sex, [...]
How to Feel Less Anxious
It’s pretty easy to feel anxious these days, especially with climate change, attacks on LGBTQ rights and a government led by someone as mentally unstable [...]
Are You Ready for Marriage?
Choosing a partner is one of most important decisions any of us will ever make. It determines the harmony – or lack of it – [...]
What is Community?
When Gay San Diego was for sale, I wondered “What will happen to the Gay San Diego community if the paper goes under?” Luckily, Terry Sidie [...]
Love, Sex and Grindr
This column originated in questions that I’ve gotten from my clients, such as: Is it true that too much Grindr or Scruff sex makes you [...]
90 Seconds
I used to hate science in high school. In my class of 68 people (Wellington High School class of 1971), our biology teacher was completely [...]
5 Questions (and answers) on The Art of Aging Well
Since I decided to offer a workshop here in San Diego on the above topic, I have been talking about it on social media. Surprisingly, [...]
Cry. Laugh. Feel.
Many people tell me that I don’t look my age (66). When they ask me: “What’s your secret?” I can honestly say, “Feeling your feelings [...]
I Don’t Want to Get Older
Dear Michael: I don’t want to get older. I look at old gay men and I don’t like what I see. I don’t want to [...]
The Best Sleep Ever
Sleep: beautiful, wonderful, drowsy, deep, restful sleep. Don’t we love it? Isn’t it one of the best things in life? Doesn’t it keep us well-rested, [...]