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San Diego-based, California-licensed psychotherapist, assisting clients in achieving their goals and becoming the men and women they want to be.
San Diego Therapist, California-licensed psychotherapist

Sex as Sport

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There’s talk in the air – particularly among my 20-something LGBT clients – of “sex as sport”.  What does this mean?  From what I hear, it’s about sex as an activity, like tennis or baseball…just for fun, good for exercise…no muss, no fuss…and no emotional drama.  This is…

Fathers and Mothers

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As we’re about halfway between Father’s Day and Mother’s Day, it feels timely to write a column addressing how our fathers and mothers affect our lives and relationships. In this column, I’d like to focus on: (1) How our Fathers and Mothers are (unconscious) models…


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After the last Folsom Street Fair, a client said that he saw me on a list of “kink-friendly” therapists. I was intrigued, so I Googled “kink” to see how different people/groups define “kink”. The common consensus definition was: “unusual sexual behaviors or practices”. To this I…

Give yourself the gift of meditation

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It’s trendy to meditate.  Movie stars do it, the Dalai Lama does it, even your next-door neighbor does it. But what is it? Meditation is about taking time out from your day, stopping your activities and doing nothing but being with yourself. There’s nothing mystical or…

How to have Great Sex

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Everyone wants to have great sex, but the “ingredients” seem elusive. I’d like to suggest that great sex requires elements of both aggression and tenderness.  Some say that men have too much aggression and women too much tenderness, but that’s a stereotype; not true for many…

When you’re the “other” (wo)man

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Dear Michael:  I’ve noticed you give good advice to people in thorny situations, so here’s another one: I went to a party and met this guy, “Tom”. He was really cute and I liked him and we flirted and kissed and before I knew it…

Does Meditation Really Work?

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Dear Michael: Recently a friend told me that I should meditate.  I really don’t know what meditation is.  I am not into religion or spirituality or that stuff, is that what meditation is about?  I am a really hyper, anxious person who worries a lot, and my friend…

The Man Machine

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Sometimes I wonder what to write about in my columns. This week, I didn’t have to wonder for long. Two media images hit me over the head like a hammer: ‘We’ve assembled the hottest guys” claims a gay website with a photo of a beautiful…

Father’s Day Blues?

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Dear Michael: Father’s Day is coming up and I dread it.  I really have no relationship with my father.  When I came out he basically disowned me, and despite many attempts to reconnect with him, he hangs up the phone whenever I call.   I feel so awful…