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San Diego-based, California-licensed psychotherapist, assisting clients in achieving their goals and becoming the men and women they want to be.
San Diego Therapist, California-licensed psychotherapist,
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Top/Bottom/Versatile

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I was recently at a party where I was asked, “As a therapist, can you tell me why there are so many more bottoms than tops?” Well, some things may be eternal mysteries, but I’ll give the question my best shot. I can’t assume that…

No one’s faithful anymore

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Dear Michael: I am so disgusted with our community. It seems that nobody is faithful to their partner anymore. I was in a 10-year relationship that recently ended. I was faithful to my boyfriend and (to my knowledge) he was faithful to me. Now that…

How to have a Happy Summer

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Summers are supposed to be happy, right? Carefree, easy, laid-back…and, yet, so often, they’re not. This column is about how to make this summer one of your best ever. Let’s start with: Lower your expectations…of everyone. For example: don’t think you have to lose weight…

The Imposter Syndrome

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When you were a little kid, didn’t you look at all the hard-working grownups all around you and think, “Wow, they’re so good. I hope I can be like them some day.” And then, as an adult, you look around you and think, “Wow, we’re…

Same-Sex Divorce: How to Prevent It

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It’s easy to be excited about same-sex marriage. After all, we worked long and hard to make it happen. And, yes, we deserve to feel good about it. However, let’s look at what happens when same-sex marriage doesn’t go so well: same-sex divorce: Why do couples…

What To Do When You’re Not Young And Cute Anymore

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I often hear – from my mid-life clients – something like this:  “The singles world is all about hot guys/girls in their 20’s and 30’s.  I feel old, ugly and jealous…what happens when I’m not young and cute anymore?” For many of us, from our mid-40’s onward,…

Don’t Lose Yourself in a Relationship

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Often, when I counsel newly-married couples, I hear a familiar lament: “I feel like I’ve lost myself since I got married” or “After moving in with my partner, I feel like I’ve merged with them so much that I don’t know who I am anymore”….

Stuck in the (Bisexual) Closet

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Dear Michael:  I am a closet bisexual. I have been with a terrific guy for about 10 years’ now. We have a great sex life and a good life together. But, I have never been with another woman sexually and I want to experience that….

Competition in Same-Sex Couples

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Have you ever noticed how much competition there is in same sex couples?  It’s just beneath the surface, and something I see a lot as a psychotherapist to the San Diego LGBT community. It seems easier for opposite sex couples to not compete. Perhaps it’s because…

Happy POP! (Post-Orlando Pride)

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In this confusing time, after Orlando and before San Diego Pride, what do we stand for? As an LGBT community, what do we want to tell the world? Four things come to mind: We will not go back, we will move forward into equality in…