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San Diego-based, California-licensed psychotherapist, assisting clients in achieving their goals and becoming the men and women they want to be.
San Diego Therapist, California-licensed psychotherapist,
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The Best Way To End A Relationship

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Dear Michael: I am in the process of divorcing my husband of 4 years. I can’t believe I was with him that long, he has been abusive for most of that time. He’s crazy, literally. I think he’s bipolar. He would threaten me one day…

Let’s Take Back “Slut”

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I was recently at a party where a really beautiful guy walked by a group of gay men. One of the guys in the group said, “He’s really hot” and another guy in the group said, “Yeah, but he’s such a slut.” This comment has…

Internalized Homophobia: Do I Sound Gay?

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I just saw the movie, “Do I sound gay?” Wow, it sure gave me a lot to think about. The director/star goes through the movie, hating the sound of his voice, trying to make it sound “less gay”. He even sees a Hollywood voice coach…

Body Fascism

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Many men and women I work with are afraid not to be thin, muscular or both. You too? How did we become so critical of our bodies? Years’ ago, body image was much more relaxed. Look at videos from the 70’s and 80’s: we didn’t…

Fat? Old? Ugly?

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I was inspired to write this column after seeing an ad in an LGBT Periodical (not from San Diego). The above three words were the large font headline. Nice, huh? So helpful and encouraging. It was an ad for plastic surgery: playing on our worst…

Beneath Anger, There Is Always Sadness

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In 1995, when I was a Middle School Counselor in San Francisco, I was asked to facilitate an “Anger Management Group” for the most out-of-control boys in the school. Most of the boys in this group were in trouble with the law: they stole cars,…

Do you Feel Invisible?

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What does it mean to be invisible? No one sees you. As a therapist, I hear lots of men and woman over 40 tell me that they feel “invisible”.  They walk down the street in Hillcrest and no one sees them.  No one makes eye contact.  They go…

What do you think of This Kind of Sex?

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Dear Michael, Last week a friend of mine invited me to go with him to a sex party that he heard about on Adam4Adam. It was in someone’s hotel suite and there were a lot of naked men there. I’ve been to bathhouses before, but…