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San Diego-based, California-licensed psychotherapist, assisting clients in achieving their goals and becoming the men and women they want to be.
San Diego Therapist, California-licensed psychotherapist,
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Perfectionism: The Endless Report Card

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Do you feel like you’re always judging/critiquing/ evaluating yourself? Are you afraid to do something you may not be good at? Are you afraid to take risks? Congratulations! You’re probably a perfectionist. The good news: perfectionists are made, not born. It is a learned set…

Lift Others as You Climb

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Advertising urges us to see aging as a failure. This is where role models and mentoring come in. When I was a young man, I saw very few older men or women who had lives that looked appealing. I’m sure they were out there, I…

Reinventing Marriage

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Now, no matter what state we live in, move to or visit, our same-sex marriages are legal. Hooray! This has been a long time coming. As a therapist and someone who has conducted numerous workshops on same-sex relationships in the past few years, many LGBT…

Cheaters

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Dear Michael: I never thought it would happen to me, but here I am, in a relationship with a cheater. I didn’t know he was sleeping with other guys, but I started to notice too many things that were weird and he then started being…

The Best Way To End A Relationship

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Dear Michael: I am in the process of divorcing my husband of 4 years. I can’t believe I was with him that long, he has been abusive for most of that time. He’s crazy, literally. I think he’s bipolar. He would threaten me one day…

Let’s Take Back “Slut”

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I was recently at a party where a really beautiful guy walked by a group of gay men. One of the guys in the group said, “He’s really hot” and another guy in the group said, “Yeah, but he’s such a slut.” This comment has…

Internalized Homophobia: Do I Sound Gay?

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I just saw the movie, “Do I sound gay?” Wow, it sure gave me a lot to think about. The director/star goes through the movie, hating the sound of his voice, trying to make it sound “less gay”. He even sees a Hollywood voice coach…

Body Fascism

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Many men and women I work with are afraid not to be thin, muscular or both. You too? How did we become so critical of our bodies? Years’ ago, body image was much more relaxed. Look at videos from the 70’s and 80’s: we didn’t…