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San Diego-based, California-licensed psychotherapist, assisting clients in achieving their goals and becoming the men and women they want to be.
San Diego Therapist, California-licensed psychotherapist,
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Body Fascism

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Many men and women I work with are afraid not to be thin, muscular or both. You too? How did we become so critical of our bodies? Years’ ago, body image was much more relaxed. Look at videos from the 70’s and 80’s: we didn’t…

Fat? Old? Ugly?

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I was inspired to write this column after seeing an ad in an LGBT Periodical (not from San Diego). The above three words were the large font headline. Nice, huh? So helpful and encouraging. It was an ad for plastic surgery: playing on our worst…

Beneath Anger, There Is Always Sadness

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In 1995, when I was a Middle School Counselor in San Francisco, I was asked to facilitate an “Anger Management Group” for the most out-of-control boys in the school. Most of the boys in this group were in trouble with the law: they stole cars,…

Do you Feel Invisible?

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What does it mean to be invisible? No one sees you. As a therapist, I hear lots of men and woman over 40 tell me that they feel “invisible”.  They walk down the street in Hillcrest and no one sees them.  No one makes eye contact.  They go…

What do you think of This Kind of Sex?

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Dear Michael, Last week a friend of mine invited me to go with him to a sex party that he heard about on Adam4Adam. It was in someone’s hotel suite and there were a lot of naked men there. I’ve been to bathhouses before, but…

Coming Out Is Mental Health

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Dear Michael: I’ve been married for 5 years and it’s a sham.  I want to come out, but, I’m scared to death that everyone I know will turn against me.   I have two young kids – a 6-month-old baby girl and a 3-year-old boy –…

(Non)Disordered Eating

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On many pop culture websites, you hear a lot of talk about celebrities with eating disorders. What is an eating disorder and what is (non)disordered eating? I think that most of us have some (small) version of an eating disorder.  We all have times when we…

5 Relationship Myths (and how to break them)

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Despite the hundreds of relationship self-help books out on the shelves, there’s a lot of impractical and impossible advice given by the “experts”.  After many years of helping people with their relationships, I’d like to share my favorite relationship myths with you, in the hopes that…